We can all get on a bit of a downer sometimes. That’s only natural and it happens to everyone from time to time. The important thing though, is how we explain how we explain those down times to ourselves. This is the difference between having a bad day and sliding in a bad week or month. There are three thoughts we tell ourselves about these moments that will make any bad time worse. The good news is that knowing this, and doing something about it, can lift you out of funk pretty quickly too.Read More
Improve any relationship with just three words. No, not “I love you” but “Just Like Me”. In this blog I explain how these three words can make a huge difference.Read More
10 tips, slightly different viewpoints on how to set resolutions or goals for the New Year.
It's the time of year when people tend to set some new year's resolutions, so I thought I'd share some top tips about how to set better new New Year's resolutions and set goals that you're more likely to stick to throughout 2019.Read More
Have you ever got caught up in someone else’s drama and found yourself thinking “How on earth did I get sucked into this?”. If you have then chances are that you have been drawn into a drama triangle.
I got geekily excited when I saw this being used to describe the conflict between characters in the BBC drama The Cry recently, although it occurred to me that many viewers might not understand why the main character Joanna was being asked about a triangle by a psychologist. Here I explain what that triangle is all about.Read More
Working from home means freedom from office life, but it also means being responsible for keeping yourself productive.
I’ve experimented with many different ways of tackling this problem over the years, with some successes, so here I share some techniques I’ve tried for keeping focused when working solo, along with my rating for how effective they are.Read More
Do you really know your strengths? In the past, my work has shaped which skills I focus on and recently I've been wondering which are the things I've become skilled in because I've had to be and which are the ones I've focused on because they truly energise me. To help me find out, I completed a profiling tool called Strengthscope, and put time in for some coaching. I was really hoping it might give me some clues. Here I share what I discovered and a copy of the report I received.Read More
It took less than 5 minutes for my tweet to be rubbished by a male associate of mine. My idea wasn’t perfect but it obviously had merit, so why point out small and irrelevant downsides when the overall suggestion was helpful? Why had this guy been so mean about it? A few days later I listened to a fantastic podcast about the linguistic rituals men and women use in the workplace. It made me think. Perhaps my Twitter friend hadn't been so mean after all!Read More
Relationships, public speaking, performing a song for Simon Cowell. All things you should put as much of yourself as you can into. A lion's den, a pair of hotpants 2 sizes too small and difficult conversations-all things you absolutely take yourself out of. I don’t mean don’t have difficult conversations but, as far as possible, we should take ourselves out of them.Read More
Being self-employed I was naturally drawn to this book when I saw it. Of course, I’d like to monetise my expertise and build a solid business creating my own products but is it really as achievable as we are led to believe? The internet is awash with people showing you how to build a business online, most of whom I’m more than a little suspicious of, so it was nice to pick up a practical book from a reputable authority on the subject. Perhaps it can be done after all….Read More
Have you ever noticed that when you are doing something you love, no matter how physically demanding it is, you often feel like you could keep it up all day? Yet, when you are doing something mind-numbingly dull you find it tiring to the point where you could very easily fall asleep?
Why is this and how can we find ways to get more of that energised feeling?Read More
Have you set some goals for the new year? 80% of New Years Resolutions fail by the second week of February. Here's 5 things you can do to increase your success rate in 2018.Read More
I've never been one to admit "I'm struggling". I don't like to bother people or bring them down with my woes and no one likes a moaner. I've never had much time for Jeremy Kyle 'guests' who air their dirty laundry in public either. In fact, I admit I've been quite judgemental about them. However, I have come to learn that both professionally and personally, talking about your problems with people is actually a bloody good idea.Read More
I pay people to make me uncomfortable –and I love it.
No it's not a wierd sex thing.Read More
Ever found yourself slowly slipping into bad habits?
Here are 5 warning signs that you are veering off course and how to spot them.Read More
Ever done this? You've set out to achieve something, you take action and slowly you start to see some progress unfold but then you get stuck and you can't seem to break through and finally crack it?
When you find yourself in this situation it might be time to pause and reflect. Here are five questions to ask yourself when you get stuck.Read More
Modern technology is a wonderful thing when it works for us. However, when we become a slave to technology it can kill your productivity and cause you to lose hours each day.Read More
Have you ever felt snowed under because of the commitments you have to other people? If you have then you may be training them to depend on you either practically or emotionally. Even worse your act of kindness might not be as kind as you think.Read More
We all like to be smug. Who doesn't like the feeling of proving ourselves right and proving others wrong? It's a great feeling. Or at least it should be.
I'm always amazed at how some people are so pleased to prove themselves right even when it means sabotaging themselves.Read More
Fitspo' quotes. Do you love them or hate them?
I love seeing quotes and memes on social media. Mostly on weight loss or fitness pages. I'm intrigued to see if I can tell what a person's motivations are. I think a lot of people post these quotes and memes to show how positive they are but they probably aren't aware that they are revealing more negativity than they realise.Read More
I've been doing a lot of research into procrastination recently for an online course I've written on productivity. I uncovered loads of loads of great tips and 'hacks' for overcoming procrastination. Lots of cunning methods of tricking yourself into greater productivity but none of the dozens and dozens them of the articles or books I read addressed the cause of procrastination.Read More